In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “(Your Thing) for Dummies.”
Take a complicated subject you know more about than most people, and explain it to a friend who knows nothing about it at all.
Dear friend who has shown willingness but no experience in empathy.
If I express a feeling. I would like empathy back. Here are some pointers
- Tell me what you heard me say if you can’t find your own words just repeat parrot like even a parrot is better than silence, or mmmm or changing the subject.
- Don’t tell me your personal experiences about this – this conversation is about me not you.
- See if you can find it in yourself to feel what I’m feeling. Dig deep into your self awareness here can you get a glimmer ?
- If YES then sit with it for a second (there is a bit of a health warning here, if I’m seriously down, don’t get sucked to my level, just touch it and know it but no more)
- Tell me what you now feel. Once you know you feel it I need to know that you feel it. From my point of view it is nice if you feel my pain, but more useful to me if you can communicate that to me or else all that effort is for nothing
- If NO – you really can’t get it – please try telling me that. There is a much better chance of a proper conversation if you just say you don’t get it. Don’t fake understanding.
Ultimate aim – that I feel understood